Writing Sex Scenes
Is it okay to make sex funny?
I'm writing a memoir about my experiences back in the dating world (mostly all the bad dates), and I've written a few chapters about some of the sexual encounters that I've had. What I've written so far in its entirety is supposed to be humorous. I struggle with the sex (written, not actual... please) because to me it's funny. But I think the scenes I've written are a little too technical and detached in some ways. Is that okay?
Also, I'm not well versed in romance novels or any other writing about sex, except for 50 Shades of Gray and Bonk. That's the extent of my sex reading. Any suggestions? Especially something that might be funny?
"But I think the scenes I've written are a little too technical and detached in some ways. Is that okay?"
I loved your question. Yes, it is totally okay to make sex funny in your writing (Chelsea Handler, anyone?).
I am really looking forward to checking out your book. It sounds just like what I love to read, and I think that once I do that, I will probably be able to give you some more feedback about what in the scenes (sex scenes or otherwise) is working, or not.
In the meantime, welcome to Book Country. We've got some resources on the site that you might check out as your orient yourself to the community: an FAQ, video tutorials, and this Book Country blog post that serves as a good introduction for how to get started (though it seems like you already off to a fantastic start.
Let me know if you have questions--you can private message me or email me at lucy AT bookcountry DOT com.
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Humorous sex is awesome, especially if it's supposed to be funny. If you're writing a romance even, it can still be funny a bit. But you're not writing a romance, you're writing a memoir that depicts many situations that are meant to be funny. Take TV/Movies, for example, how many times have we cracked up at sex scenes gone wrong. It's brilliant, I think. Be technical with a humorous inner dialogue. Let me know if that's published. I'd love to read it!
Just finishing my first full-length novel, DEADLY RED. A murder mystery spy thriller, but with plenty of sexy scenes. None of my favorite writers include much sex in their thrillers, so I'm going a bit out on a limb. Many of the erotic encounters in my novel are funny. For instance, one of the women tries to undress her sleeping female friend in a jetliner. Stubborn buttons, sticky zippers, elastic that snaps and wondering if she is really sleeping all add to the fun. (By the way, our male hero is sleeping in the seat between the two women.) Oh, a little turbulence when one is almost naked wakes her.
I can only hope that our dear readers find this stimulating and engaging.
There are plenty of bombs, blood and bullets in the book. A bunch of twists and secrets. Not all fun and games.
Excited to be part of Book Country and entering the Thriller realm.
I'm very open to comments, funny or otherwise. Thank you.